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How to Live with Yourself

People you can live with... people you can live without. My first thoughts on this new series had me fired up and ready to go:

"NOW I can dig in and talk about these toxic folks always tainting people's good intentions and always spewing negative thoughts! Okay, God, let's go!"

~A Quote from Phillipa's flesh

But the Word would have its way...

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. ~Hebrews 4:12 New International Version

In my world, that means I had to check "Phillipa" first.

Could I live with the "Me" I've become?

Can you live with who YOU have become?

Using the word become in this context implies something negative, but that's not necessarily so. It can be negative but also very much positive. The reality is, whatever your present mix of becoming looks like, Heaven gives us the opportunity to always become better.

Mo' better.

I had fun looking up definitions for the phrase "mo' better" (many of which I cannot express here), but some of my favorite variations came from the online dictionary, Reverso. Which one of these definitions convicts you to pause for the cause of becoming a better person to live with?

Mo' Better: Having recovered from

What place of unforgiveness or pain is holding you back from better?

Mo' Better: Improved as a result of.

Will you use the struggles of today to become a better person tomorrow?

Mo' Better: To change one's course of action after reconsideration.

Think about it. Isn't it time to do better for yourself so you can be better for God?

The one place where we can all begin the journey of becoming anew is in the Word of God. That's right. That two-edged sword convicting and loving us at the same time. Remember, it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

Only God can truly judge us.

You didn’t think, did you, that just by pointing your finger at others you would distract God from seeing all your misdoings and from coming down on you hard? Or did you think that because he’s such a nice God, he’d let you off the hook? Better think this one through from the beginning. God is kind, but he’s not soft. In kindness he takes us firmly by the hand and leads us into a radical life-change. ~Romans 2:3-4 The Message Translation

God is kind, but not soft. Looks like we have some work to do.

All of us have something we need to resolve, fix, clean up. We can live with ourselves when accept the grace of God to be better. How good it is to have judge loving and guiding us to become someone we, and the world, can live with.

My prayer for you (and me) today:

Only you, God, can truly judge us. Thank you for allowing your grace and mercy to follow us as we work to get it right. Thank you for the Word that compels us to do so not to be superior but to be better. Let it have its way in our lives. Make us mo' better so we can do better by you. In Jesus' name. amen.


Are certain people making noise in your life? Ready for the music?

Join me next week as we continue the series,

PEOPLE: Who You Can Live With or without?

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Phillipa also the Founder of ilooklikeLOVE, Inc., a 501(c)(3) Non-Profit Organization providing diaper assistance to families in need and opportunities for mothers to empower themselves.

Look for her upcoming book,

GOD n You: Finding Your Place in Forever.


About Phillipa



Phillipa Williams has dedicated her life to building God’s kingdom. A former programs director for new member and Christian education with over 36 years’ experience in leadership and discipleship, she has equipped thousands to serve God and community.

She is the Founder/CEO of GOD n Me International, a faith-based social enterprise equipping and inspiring others for spiritual intimacy, transparency, and destiny. Her blog,, was named one of the "Top 10 Black Christian Blogs, Websites, Newsletters To Follow in 2019“ by In Spring 2022, Phillipa published her first book, GOD 'n You: Finding Your Place in Forever. She also completed the licensing and ministerial requirements at the Potter's House School of Ministry in Dallas, Texas.

An advocate for women and children, Phillipa founded and serves as Executive Director of the 501 (c)(3) nonprofit, ilooklikeLOVE, Inc.. ilooklikeLOVE works to eradicate early childhood poverty through diaper assistance and capacity building for new mothers.


She is the proud parent on one adult son, Kenneth.

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